Paul Newman died recently. A good man with incredible success as an actor, business man, philanthropist. And a great husband. Paul Newman was happily married to actress Joanne Woodward for 50 years, which is an oddity for celebrities and stars of his stature.

SARAH HAMPSON wrote this article in the Family & Relationships section in the October 2, 2008 edition of www.GlobeandMail.com.

What can you learn from Paul Newman and Biology for a Long Marriage for you?

The Science of a Long Marriage

Want to have a long marriage like Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward did?

Well, the right thing to say to your wife in the midst of an argument could be as simple as this: “Honey, let’s not get upset. When our brains age, we’ll become more adoring companions.”

Alternatively, you could say, “Just think of all the emotional-attachment synapses we’ll be laying down in our brains if we make it to our 25th anniversary.”
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Women love to feel connected their husbands. That’s their makeup: oxytoxin is the female “glue” hormone that urges a woman to reach out in relationships emotionally and physically.

A brand new study released in the United Kingdom shows very positive results from hugging up to 4 times a day. Here is a reprint of the article written by John Bingham and published in Telegraph.co.uk on October 1, 2008.

“A poll of 4,000 couples found that spending at least 22 periods of “quality time” together every month, such as going for a walk or sharing a romantic meal, were also key to maintaining a healthy relationship.

Researchers asked couples who described themselves as “happy” or “very happy” to estimate how much time they spend together in an effort to work out the secret of their success.

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Have you ever found yourself picking at your wife’s (or for those wives who read this blog, your husband’s) minor faults until they become ugly sores? Not a pretty site is it?

Gary Thomas wrote an intriguing article more than 10 years ago. The subject? Living a double standard. What does that mean?

Often a double standard means that you behave one way in one situation and something completely different in another. But that is not what Gary means when he examined his relationship with his wife. He applies a little know Christian principle that made his marriage much more loving and kind.

What to learn more? Click on this link to read Gary’s article

Why you need a Double Standard in Marriage Communication.

Be well in your marriage,

Dave Pipitone, www.songofourmarriage.com

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Diane Sollee of Smartmarriages.com sent out an alert about a new song her group is adopting, “All is Right.”

The song was written by Ericka Chambers, a bright, talented and present GIRL, who loves her parents and has witnessed their love in their marriage. You can learn more about Ericka by reading her Myspace profile.

Remember, a marriage isn’t about just the relationship between husband and wife. It’s about how the entire family is affected by that love, how the present is made secure, and the future is made brighter.

Watch this touching video. Listen to the song. Post a reply, then tell your friends about this post so they can watch it too.

May your children “catch” you in love with your spouse and thank God that “All is right” in your family!

Dave Pipitone, www.songofourmarriage.com

Want to learn how to improve your marriage? Read my reviews of these top two resources to make your marriage communication sparkle, so that your children say, “All Right!”

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Pastor John Efetobor wrote an interesting post in the American Chronicle, “Factors that encourages happiness in marriage” that relates happiness in life and success in work with happiness in a marriage.

According to Rev. Efetobor, a happy marriage depends on pursuing each of these qualities: unity, faithfulness, transparency, commitment and sacrifice.

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Sometimes it helps to read the advice of others and get new ideas to keep your marriage relationship fresh. A recent post in a Stepfamilies forum listed 20 ideas from Rabbi Zelig Pliskin’s “Marriage” book that are worth considering.

Here are three of those ideas that deal with communicating value to your wife:

4. Keep doing and saying things that will give your spouse a sense of importance.
What do you tell your wife on a daily basis? Do you have a routine of telling her that she is making a difference for you and your family? Write a simple note that gives her a better sense of how she is making your marriage and home a good place to live.

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Do you “compromise” in marriage? According to John Shore, healthy marriages don’t have compromises. I’m not sure that I agree with him.

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Is there really a secret to having a happy marriage for Catholics? After all, the national divorce rate is about 50% for marriages in the United States.

In her article, LORRAINE V. MURRAY discusses what she believes are the central reasons for her marriage of 26 years to her husband.
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Has this ever happened to you? As a good husband, you provide a good living for your wife, your family, helping neighbors and you face a number of petty complaints, the silent treatment and more? Just because you are loving your wife, it doesn’t mean that you will be perfect in everything.

Every successful marriage involves accepting the marriage partner’s strengths and weak areas. So what do you do when your wife’s vision is a little clouded in how she views you?
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This intriguing article examines some recent research that marriage can actually help promote mental health. Interesting concept isn’t it? Many mainstream media TV shows and movies belittle marriage and make fun of husbands and wives at each others’ throats. Of course, we know differently.

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ICAD: Marriage May Protect Against Dementia
By Todd Neale, Staff Writer, MedPage Today
July 30, 2008

Reviewed by Robert Jasmer, MD; Associate Clinical Professor of Medicine, University of California, San Francisco CHICAGO, July 30 — The give and take of marriage may be enough to stave off
Alzheimer’ disease and other cognitive impairment, a prospective population-based study suggested.

People living alone from midlife on were almost three times as likely to develop some level of cognitive impairment as those who were living with a partner Krister Hakansson, of Vaxjo University in Vaxjo, Sweden, and the Karolinska Institute in Stockholm, reported at the International Conference on Alzheimer’s Disease here.

There were similar greater risks of mild cognitive impairment, and Alzheimer’s disease for those living alone.

“This study points to the beneficial effects of a married life,” Hakansson said, “consistent with the general hypothesis of social stimulation as a protective factor against dementia.”

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