How to Write a Personal Wedding Song for Your Wife
The number one truth that helps husbands create a successful marriage is that wives love to be cherished and treasured by their husbands. Wives love to be touched and held. Wives love to be told, in a gentle and humble way, how important they are to their husbands.
One of the most touching ways you can show your love to your wife is to write a personal wedding song for her. Even if you’ve been married for 50 years or more, you can renew your marriage every day with a personal wedding song.
“What me sing? No way!” you may say. “I can’t carry a tune, let alone do a solo.” While it may seem challenging, a personal wedding song is simply a love poem set to music. A personal wedding song is more than a personal love letter, although those are very useful, too.
I know from personal experience of writing, recording and singing a wedding song to my wife, that it can be done. When I started, I had no guidance, just a gut intuition. All it takes is to get started with the first step.
Step One: Acknowledge Your Wife
Write down five things that you admire and love about your wife. What five would you choose? Is she a great friend, an excellent listener, does she have a friendly and warm smile, a good sense of humor, does she love to surprise you? If you can list ten or more things, all the better.
Step Two: Write Down Her Special Things
My wife Cheryl loves purple, she loves to hold hands and be hugged, she is very action oriented, she is so thoughtful, she never forgets a family member’s birthday. She loves greeting cards, music, plays, going out to dinner. She is very wise about relationships. A personal wedding song should contain several items that are unique and special to your wife and your relationship. What does your wife treasure?
Step Three: Put Yourself and Your Feelings into the Song
In “Song of Our Marriage,” the personal wedding song I wrote for my wife, I wrote a touching refrain that honored her with a title, her role in my life and what that has done for me. The lyrics to the refrain go like this:
“Teacher of wisdom, you’ve shown me God’s face, your strength is gentle and fine as white lace. You listen with heart strings that sing out a song, it’s your love that makes me feel strong.”
Choose some of your wife’s best traits and write down what they mean to you. If you need help with rhyming, you can get a Rhyming Dictionary. Or you can read books of poems or search the Internet through a Google Search to come up with a poem you can start with.
Make sure to personalize it, though, so that it comes from your heart. You want to be authentic; a cheap copy of someone else passed off as your own may work against you.
Step Four: Make It Simple: Two Verses and a Refrain (more if you can)
Make your personal wedding song easy to sing, but unique to your wife. For example, remember the poems that start, “Roses are red, violets are blue?” You can take that and work it out, like "Roses are red, violets are blue:
...I can’t see myself living without you.
...You are my wife, the crown of my life, my life would be empty without you.
Step Five: Use a Familiar Tune for the Music
Did you know that is OK to borrow a melody (as long as you don’t sell it or claim it as your own) for your personal wedding song? In fact, if your wife has a special song that she likes, you might learn how to write lyrics that go along with it.
If you get serious, you could find a musician or studio to help. When I wrote “Song of Our Marriage,” I figured out the melody by humming it, matching the keys on a piano and then finding a studio that produced the accompaniment. Use the Internet to find someone who can help. With downloadable MP3 files, you can actually produce a song on your PC.
Step Six: Sing the Song to Your Wife and Frame the Lyrics
Now comes the most important part – the delivery. Don’t write a personal wedding song and then lock it in a drawer. Sing it to your wife. Record it. Frame the lyrics and hang the song in your bedroom or kitchen.
For “Song of Our Marriage,” I created even a photo album with pictures of my wife in Lilacia Park, in Disney World, with her friends, and more in several sections. Each section of the album reflected the verse and refrain from the personal wedding song.
There you have it, six steps to writing a personal wedding song for your wife. It takes work, but your wife will be deeply moved by your touching gift and care for her.
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