Romance in Marriage Dos and Donts
Dave Pipitone
Whether the romance in marriage has been burning brightly or if it seems to be a cinder that is dying, a husband can affirm his wife by taking positive action to keep the fires burning.
Every married relationship and romantic encounter has its ups and downs. As days turn into years, it is easy to settle into a routine of watching TV, spending time with the boys, working, playing with the kids. Even good husbancs can settle into a comfortable married relationship, relax and forget the 'romance'. Suddenly you feel that something is missing. Perhaps your wife has complained that you are very far from the charming man who dated and courted her during your engagement. Maybe those passionate early days of marriage have evaporated. Something is missing. Maybe YOU are the one who has noticed the change. And now, it is time for YOU to do something about it. But, you aren't sure what you are supposed to do!
Before you look more closely at your personal situation, there are a few - only a few - do's and don'ts you'll want to remember as you prepare to increase the romantic formula. Count these off and see which ones might apply to you. Don't worry - no one is counting but you. Be honest with yourself and your chances of improving the romance in marriage will be better.
1. DO Be Yourself - don't try to pretend you are an actor in a movie. Remember that your partner is with you because they care about YOU. You don't have to PROVE anything!
2. DO Use Your Creativity and Your Smarts - if you really apply yourself, you can think of lots of things you know about your partner and use those things to come up with creative ideas to please them.
3. DO Focus on What is Important - we'll give you some more elaborate suggestions for special occasions, but for the every day romantic touches, you don't have to spend a lot or go crazy trying to please your partner. They will love the idea that you have thought enough to do something small. You don't have to go broke!
4. Don't Make This a Competition - you should not become an effort to 'out do' each other. Appreciate the little things and the big things and don't try to IMPRESS your partner by outing THEIR efforts.
5. Don't Think About What YOU Want - remember what your partner likes and focus on that. Hopefully, they will do the same and you will get some of what you want too, but YOUR efforts should be about romancing your partner!
6. Don't Spend More Money Than You Have - simple inexpensive things to show your spouse you are thinking of her are more important than going into debt to get a little romance in your life. The wheels will come off the love wagon if you go broke trying to take expensive trips or buy expensive gifts. Keep it simple!
Putting romance in marriage takes work but it is worth your time and effort. Make your wife is your best partner for romance.
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