Romantic Marriage and Husbands
Dave Pipitone
Whether your romantic marriage is new or one that has passed the test of time, there are probably days when a husband wonders how to keep the fires burning.
As time goes forward and you settle into a comfortable married relationship, you may relax and forget the 'romance'. Suddenly you feel that something is missing. Perhaps your wife has complained that you are different from the man who courted her. The romance is missing from your marriage. Maybe YOU are the one who has noticed the change. And now, it is time to do something about it. But, you aren't sure what you are supposed to do!
Fortunately, you don't have to be a dreamer, creative person, or even hopeless romantic to put some fire back in your marriage. Most guys just need a few ideas, like a 'starter kit', to get the juices flowing again. Once you get going, you will probably find that you can come up with plenty of ideas on your own.
The only thing you need is the desire to make your marriage romantic and to invest a little time and energy focusing on your wife Take the time to pay attention to your love life! It may sound corny or trite, but your example will ensure that your spouse knows she is loved and valued.
If you put a little energy into the process, you'll find that soon you and your spouse will come up with new ways to surprise each other and take pleasure and interest in keeping the process going.
Many husbands often feel that they don't know where to start, or that they don't have a romantic bone in their bodies. There is a fear that they will schedule a romantic dinner and stare at each other across the table, and the anxious feeling occurs that you have missed the boat with your wife.
Don't worry!
If you have neglected the romantic side in your relationship for a while, or if you are uncomfortable expressing your feelings, it is going to take some time and practice before you become a pro. That's OK.
Most of us are not born spouting love poems or reciting romantic movie scripts. It is more important that you find a way to express who YOU are, rather than trying to play a role. If you find it easier to use humor, then do so. You can be funny and romantic at the same time!
If you aren't good at writing or talking about your feelings, find a song or a poem to do it for you. Your partner will LOVE YOU for the effort and you will not feel inadequate in your expression of love. What is important is that you try, and that you show that you care by your effort.
With a little effort you can make a splash with your romantic expressions. You may not THINK you can become the romantic lead in your own love story, but after your romantic marriage can score very high with your partner.
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