Romance in your marriage is a two-way street. If you are trying to revive some romance in your marriage, let your wife know what you are trying to do and enjoy the creative process together.

It is important to know your partner well enough to know whether your changed behavior will be a pleasant surprise OR just perceived as odd or unusual behavior.

Join a monthly book club together and attend the meetings as a couple. While you are reading the book during the month, you can meet to read to each other. Talk on the phone, or over dinner, about the book, and share your thoughts about the characters and the plot.

Go to a book signing for your favorite author, or just visit a local bookstore. The larger stores, like Barnes and Noble, have coffee shops inside and you can browse the shelves. Then buy your favorite books (maybe even a book of love poems) and then share coffee and a snack with your wife.

You certainly don’t want to FORCE your wife to do anything she does not want to do! And, if you are really trying to put romance in your life and IF you are sensitive to your wife's preferences and desires, you should have no problem convincing her that you will both enjoy this process.