Romance in your marriage is a two-way street. If you are trying to revive some romance in your marriage, let your wife know what you are trying to do and enjoy the creative process together.

It is important to know your partner well enough to know whether your changed behavior will be a pleasant surprise OR just perceived as odd or unusual behavior.

Buy a deck of cards at the drug store or discount store – the large decks are great because they have a bigger face on which to write. Write one message on each card face and every day you can give or mail a card to your partner until the deck is complete.

When you are finished send every card in the deck, mail the box in which the cards came and write a message to put inside the box. Tell your wife to keep the deck and whenever she feels lonely and misses you, she can pull out a card and read your message.

You certainly don’t want to FORCE your wife to do anything she does not want to do! And, if you are really trying to put romance in your life and IF you are sensitive to your wife's preferences and desires, you should have no problem convincing her that you will both enjoy this process.