Romance in your marriage is a two-way street. If you are trying to revive some romance in your marriage, let your wife know what you are trying to do and enjoy the creative process together.

It is important to know your partner well enough to know whether your changed behavior will be a pleasant surprise OR just perceived as odd or unusual behavior.

Involve your partner’s co-workers in your scheme and have them plan a working dinner either at a restaurant or calling for takeout to work on a project. Then arrive with flowers, music playing on a portable CD and an outstretched hand to whisk your partner away from what they expected to be a hard evening of work.

Go to a little, out of the way restaurant – if you can find a new one that everyone thinks is great, so much the better. Have the dinner ordered and ready to serve, so that your wine is poured and your dinner is served as if by magic with no orders placed and no waiting.

You certainly don’t want to FORCE your wife to do anything she does not want to do! And, if you are really trying to put romance in your life and IF you are sensitive to your wife's preferences and desires, you should have no problem convincing her that you will both enjoy this process.