Romance in your marriage is a two-way street. If you are trying to revive some romance in your marriage, let your wife know what you are trying to do and enjoy the creative process together.

It is important to know your partner well enough to know whether your changed behavior will be a pleasant surprise OR just perceived as odd or unusual behavior.

Many hotels have great weekend 'romantic getaway' rates. Rent a hotel room in a nice area of town where you can walk around and shop, go to the theater or browse in museums or just walk through the park.

Don’t tell your wife where you are going, just tell her to meet you in the hotel lobby at a certain time (make it after check-in, so you can get checked in and bring all of your ‘tools’ up to dress up the hotel room). Go to the hotel early, check in and place candles in the bathroom, and run a hot bath with bubble bath or bath oil. Bring a CD player and play some romantic music. Light candles and place them around the bedroom as well. Now turn down the bed in the hotel bedroom and spread rose petals or other flower petals across the sheets. Bring some massage oil and do it up right. After a relaxing or exciting time together in the hotel room, you can go out for dinner, walk in the park or go to a museum or play, as you wish.

You certainly don’t want to FORCE your wife to do anything she does not want to do! And, if you are really trying to put romance in your life and IF you are sensitive to your wife's preferences and desires, you should have no problem convincing her that you will both enjoy this process.