Romance in your marriage is a two-way street. If you are trying to revive some romance in your marriage, let your wife know what you are trying to do and enjoy the creative process together.

It is important to know your partner well enough to know whether your changed behavior will be a pleasant surprise OR just perceived as odd or unusual behavior.

Buy an inexpensive, pretty wooden box or one made of glass, ceramic – whatever appeals to you, or whatever you think your wife would like. You can buy colored construction paper or some parchment paper from an office supply store. Use different colored pens to write messages for her and then tape or staple them closed, or just fold them in half.

Give the box to your wife and tell her to open one each day in the morning before she leaves the house or when she gets home. Whatever she would prefer. Tell your wife that she can use the messages in this box to remind herself that you are always with her and that you care for her. If you are not good at writing messages, use lines from a favorite movie, or go to the library and check out a book of love poems. You can mix up the messages by writing some very romantic things, some very sexy, seductive things and some silly or funny things, so your wife will never know what she will get on a particular day.

You certainly don’t want to FORCE your wife to do anything she does not want to do! And, if you are really trying to put romance in your life and IF you are sensitive to your wife's preferences and desires, you should have no problem convincing her that you will both enjoy this process.